I Hate Hypocrites

You say one thing, yet do another. They say they hate something, yet they themselves are doing it. I know that just frustrate me too. I want to grab them by the neck and shake them senseless and say, "Hey, get a clue!" But, for some better reason, maybe a jail term, I have decided maybe that I just don't want to approach the issue that way.

I guess I feel sorry for hypocrites because there is inconsistency in their mental programming. I like using computer analogies with people. Their computer programming is in conflict. For their words are saying one thing and their actions are doing another. There has got to be all kinds of conflicts in their lives. Just think about it. They have to have two sets of internal thought programs going on; one to run their mouth and one to run their actions.

I know some women can't stand all those guys who do not know how to discuss all their problems, fears, and emotions with you; they are just so shut down emotionally. A man discusses something with some woman and then the man is manipulated and controlled, with their emotions being used against them. Then the man gives in and begins to share. The woman then complains and cries and frets about how her man doesn't totally love her, because of that something he confided to her. The man's inadequacies are used against him, his emotions are controlled to get what she wants. She complains that he doesn't share and doesn't trust her love, yet her love is not accepting and safe. His confessions become a way for the woman to feel safe because she now feels that she understands her man, and that understanding gives her the resources to get him to do what she wants. She feels that he should feel safe with her, yet she may never feel safe with him until she is in a position to control, but then she complains about men that are controlling. She puts down men and then complains that men are so relationally shut-down to women. Her words say one thing; her actions say another. We wonder about all the power struggles and fault blaming that goes on in our relationships. We then complain about everyone who get us to confess our faults to them and then try to force us to change. Some use those confessions to control us.

I don't know about others, but I just hate those hypocrites and want to grab the closest hypocrite and shake them senseless.